Improving Your Small Talk Skills

05/03/2014 16:38

You know, being able to make small talk can be a good thing for you. Just think of the friends you can make when you know you can talk to just about anyone. There's always some new relationship getting started because something like the weather. Making connections becomes simple and easily accomplished with just a small talk so be sure to learn to make small talk sexy.

 

It's a really good skill to have especially in the business world where every connection is important. There are some things you can do to improve your small talk skills. Sure, it means a lot of practice and doing this will improve all your conversational skills. If you want to improve and master making small talk, just read along.

 

The best thing you can do to improve your talking ability is to talk. Talk to anyone that you came across with like your neighbors, waiters and cashiers. Don't pick any age bracket, just go ahead and talk to that old dude over there. Chat with some tourists along the way. Nothing beats practice with a stranger you don't know. If you can't think of a good topic to talk about, there's always the magazine and newspapers lying around. Anything you can get your hands on can be a good source of things to talk about. 

 

Other great sources of small talk topics include television, music, sports, and fashion. Browse the internet when you don't have access to paper media, there's always something there. Even stories you've heard can be a good source of something to talk about. There's always something to talk about, think about your travels or experience somewhere.

 

Practice those opening lines in the mirror and talk about random topics. All the various things you know will help you greatly with making small talk happen. Because the more you know, the more you can talk about. The best thing you can do to start is make yourself open for small talk. You can talk to people every time you're in a line and waiting for your turn. Create a situation for yourself where you'll get to talk to a lot of girls. You can accept invitation to parties or host one yourself. Don't force yourself into the  conversation with someone , just keep it natural. Do make her feel comfortable around you so she'll want to talk more and more. Remember that you have to keep making eye contact most of the time as you talk to her. Though you should be excited to talk to her, don't be too eager about it. Avoid scaring her away with your overly close body language.

 

Give her some personal space. If you already know her, you can just say hello and say her name. Being direct works this way and avoid making things complicated for yourself. But when you don't know her, you want to be confident with your introductions with her.  If you want to make her feel a little bit special, you can say her name every now and then if you know it. Actually talk to her when you're talking to her. Give her the attention she deserves. When you're exchanging information, keep it light and positive.

 

It's great when you can accomplish that with just about anyone you can talk to, really. She'll be able to enjoy the conversation more and keep it going when you can do just that. If you want to get her turned off, then there's the negative side of things. Even if your day isn't going as good as you'd hope, you don't want to make her feel bad about it. When you can't think of anything to say, blurt out a compliment that's true. When it doesn't lead anywhere, a good compliment still makes her feel good about herself so it's all good. Find something both of you want to talk about. It can be anything like your love for peanut butter and jelly. It can be something that she can relate to and make a connection with.

 

Remember that anything can lead to something you can talk about. Sooner or later, you'll find something you share with her and you can talk about that more. You can then say something personal about yourself or elaborate about it more. But don't make it too personal just yet if you don't want to freak her out. When you get to talk about yourself, it's only natural that she should talk about herself, too. Ask her some questions to reveal some information about herself. If you're gonna ask her something, beware of asking something that's too personal for new friends to know about. Don't forget the thing should be positive even if it's not funny.

 

Ask open-ended questions about her interests or surroundings. Then, based on whet she says, you can then say something else that's funny or another question about what she said. If she's becoming uncomfortable, don't ask too many questions to keep her at ease. Remember you're not interrogating her for a crime, so hold back on some questions a little bit. Balance how you ask your questions and when you make your statements to give her some time to think. When she's talking more and more, then you can just think of the next thing to talk about. But best of all, be a better listener. Really listen to what she's really saying and really understand her every word. It will lead you to more things you can talk about and even get the conversation more exciting and fun.